Confessions of a Candegirl: September 2010

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Things Fall Apart

Relationships are not always eternal. That is clearly understood by anyone who carries on as an average human. People come and they go. Sometime it's as simple as when a child graduates from one school to the next and leaves behind his classmates and teachers to make connections with new classmates and teachers. Other times we make decisions to transition people out of our lives who just don't fit any longer.

What happens however when two people who are as close as people can be wake up and realize that one of the people has clearly moved on while one person is still very much involved. This happens in all sorts of relationships: romantic, friendships, business partners. You simply realize that while you were busy "being in love" the other person was busy moving on. What's even worst is when you see where the person has moved to and you don't really have an objection to it. You can see why they chose to leave for those greener pastures, because let's be real with ourselves sometimes we know we aren't all we can be or should be for a person.

The problem is that no matter how much you understand the disconnect you can't alway convince yourself to move on. Sometimes you just want things to be as they once were when both parties clearly understood the rules of the relationship and played fair. It always starts off with small over sites on one persons behalf...then it turns to the swept aside person acting in anger and purposely setting out to hurt the person who so easily swept them aside. A war is being waged by one person to hold on to their heart while the other person isn't even aware of the conflict.

Relationships aren't easy. It's at these times when we have to clearly communicate to ourselves and our relationship partners how we feel while understanding that this might not yield the result we most hope for, but will bring clarity and closure to what may just be the moment that things fall apart.

Musical Inspiration
Artist: Built to Spill
Song: Things Fall Apart